Ok so I have been quite busy these days, I have not been
able to catch up with the activities on social media and whatnot but a story
caught my eye.
Apparently a popular musician’s girlfriend was called out by
a married sponsor she was allegedly dating,
The Olofofo married man allegedly
posted vacation pics with him and the girl just to buttress his point.
Naija being what it is the story went viral and turned into
a super story volume 1, 2, 3 so let’s step away from the gossip for a while and
revert back to my topic, Who was wrong in this case? If Mr X married or not
dated you in the past does he have a right to destroy your current relationship
especially if he has spent a considerable amount of money on you?
What’s the rule to this dating thing? Is there some kind of
Proprietary ownership that comes without a ring but is consideration for money spent? This is not a rhetorical question I am asking
because some people calculate all the money spent within the relationship and
conclude that you are now their property even if they have not taken you to
the altar…serious!!!.
This reminds me of a similar story I remember first hand
that happened some years back, I had a close friend let’s call her Cici who
went for youth service in the east and met this married politician. She literally was in
an affair with this guy for over Five years, he bought her a car, furnished her
apartment, took her to trips outside the country and literally changed her
life. (Let’s try not to judge ok)
So she finally gets a job, and lands a hot European Fiancée,
and all hell broke loose, This Married man was swearing and puffing all over
the place, he threatened her, threatened her fiancée, threatened her parents, threatened
her in laws to be, it was like a script was being played from a Nolly wood movie.
This respectable married man who had a wife with kids was
acting like a complete loose cannon just because his younger mistress whom he was
never ever going to marry anyway has decided to settle down. I remember he made
this statement
“After bringing her out from the gutter and changing her
life you think I will ever let her go” Chile!!
I thought that in this decade women would stop being seen as
some form of property to be possessed but then again let’s play Devil’s
Advocate and see things from the other party’s point of view.
If someone has
invested in your life for years, sponsored your education, paid your rent,
taken care of your family e.t.c is it fair to dump this party as soon as something
better comes along?
After all you did not sign any Exclusivity agreement but is it
fair on the party though? Have you not breached some fundamental nonexistent
law of (Promise and fail?), is it not apparent that by allowing this party pay
your bills for years you had silently entered into an agreement to be theirs
till they were sated enough to let you go? (it sounds ridiculous doesn’t it)
but I guess the spending party is not amused.
If you disagree with this theory I
have heard some gruesome stories about pre wedding day fatalities that were caused
by a Jilted EX .
To be honest I don’t have any of the answers, I guess
the lesson to be learnt here is that there is no such thing as a free lunch.
Whilst you are under no legal obligation to stick beside a
spending partner till the rest of eternity you really should be careful before
a case of the Ex hits you, for the popular musician referenced above, I heard
the end of the soap opera is that he allegedly broke things off with the
girlfriend but my friend was luckier, hey she is married and her Ex lost out in
that battle but you never know.
Some Exes are literally lunatics, you don’t want to find out
what’s behind door no 1 when you press that dump button .
Some people take their investments seriously…
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